Too Young to Go Steady

February 28, 2006 at 5:35 am | Posted in Uncategorized | 3 Comments

Listening to Sara Gazarek’s take on Perry Como’s song “Too Young to Go Steady.”

It’s a cute song really. One of those teen angst sort of thing.

Lately I’ve been thinking about Love alot (no I’m not in love). Just been thinking alot about it. About my conception of the idea. About what I do and do not know. Like alot of people in my generation I really do not know what exactly love is.

I remember watching De-Lovely, and how Cole Porter wrote “I love you” on a dare that he could not write a sappier song than that. It was a hit by the way. Heh… But do I really know what love is?

It isn’t that warm fuzzy feeling inside. That feeling passes you by. It lasts for like 15 seconds and then it goes away to bug someone else. So then what is love?

Hardwork? Keeping the romance alive. Learning to live with each other, flaws and all… It could be part of the equation.

Understanding? Actually empathising and understanding your other half. That could be it to.

Communication? Open and honest communication. Is that love?

Trust? I suppose this is an important part of Love. Without it any relationship cannot survive.

Lust? I mean there has to be physical attraction, right?

I don’t know if this is a definitive list or anything, but the question remains, if you took away that warm fuzzy feeling would you still be in love? What exactly is love? I mean my parents have stuck through thick and thin in their relationship [hi mom. you're paranoid and naggy]. Is that love? Tenacity? Stubborness? Stupidity?

I mean my bro blogged about marriage and I suppose love. 50% of 1st marriages ending in divorce? 60% of remarriages end up in divorce? So people don’t even get it right the second time round. Practice makes perfect? Still there are 50% of 1st marriages that don’t end in divorce. That means I have a 1 in 2 chance of getting it right the first time. And if I don’t get it right the first time, my chances go down the second time. I only get a 2 in 5 chance of getting it right in round 2.

I have a few friends who are married and have stayed happily married. Then again most of my closest pals are not married. My oldest friends aren’t looking like they’ll get married in the next 5 years. One is addicted to WoW/ work and the other tries, but just no cigar. Another friend is a commitment-phobe and another shows almost no interest in women (he’s not gay, just not interested).

As for my closest bros… well I guess one of them is going to get married, but he’s been married since high school. Now that’s a testament to love and commitment i suppose. I remember asking his significant other when he’s going to propose, and she said “how the hell do i know?” And I replied, “at least you know it’s an eventuality.” And he proposed to her formally recently. heh… But my other bros? I dunno… It’ll be a long while… I’m thinking earliest would be another 2 or 3 years. Two Long distance relationships, one whose partner is in med school. The rest being (un)happily single. Me included.

So it looks like I won’t be attending any weddings too soon. Dang it… No bridesmaids to hit on…

(ed: so we moved from “what is love?” to “doing” bridesmaids?)

Anyway… back to Love… Does anyone know? Have a definitive answer? Let me know.

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  1. I suppose love is a concoction of all the traits u mentioned. What starts out as just physical attraction leads to a fuzzy feeling that over time becomes a deep connection and over more time becomes inter-dependence blah blah blah.. until u dun even bother to analyse for it no longer matters. You just need the person as much as he/she needs you.

  2. sounds kind of needy… so you’re saying love is all take?

  3. haha no, if u need one another, u give while u take. else who’s going to satisfy the other person’s needs?

    the so-called need, can be emotional, intellectual, blah blah..


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